Struggle to say the thing to your boss?

Struggle to say the thing to your boss?

You know… the thing.

The thing about your salary.
The thing about your (non)promotion.
The thing about your toxic teammate.

The thing about your salary.
The thing about your (non)promotion.
The thing about your toxic teammate.

(Ugh, saying the thing feels risky.)

The thing about your home situation.
The thing about your workload.
The thing about your stress levels.

(Will saying the thing make me seem lazy?)

The thing about unclear feedback.
The thing about not being supported.
The thing about feeling micromanaged.

The thing about unclear feedback.
The thing about not being supported.
The thing about being micromanaged.

(Wait, my boss could be the thing? Now what?)

Unspoken things, big or small, can sap your energy and steal your focus. Over time they reduce your impact.

Unspoken things sabotage your career.

Since you're here, I guess you've figured that out. And you want to switch lanes.

Unspoken things, big or small, sap your energy and steal your focus. They cut down impact.

Unspoken things sabotage your career.

Since you're here, I guess you've figured that out. And you want to switch lanes.

Unspoken things, big or small, can sap your energy and steal your focus. Over time they reduce your impact.

Unspoken things sabotage your career.

Since you're here, I guess you've figured that out. And you want to switch lanes.

You want to Say the Thing to Your Manager.

Fear not, Farai, (that's me), the 1:1 Conversation Whisperer Extraordinaire can tell you how👇🏾

Work isn't working.
But you're not talking.

The vibe just isn't vibing.


That payrise is overdue. And you need that bag.

That micro-management stresses you out. Enough!

That promotion can't wait. You're ready for the next level.

That neglect is costing you. You need your boss's support.

That vague feedback wastes your time. You need clarity.

That [you know what] situation sucks. You need it to stop.


You need things to change.


But you're not saying it to your manager.


Friend, you're not alone.

The vibe just isn't vibing.


That payrise is overdue.

You need that bag.

That micro-management sucks.

Enough!

That promotion.

Why did they skip you?

That neglect slows your progress.

You need support.

That vague feedback wastes your time.

You need clarity.

That _________ situation sucks.

You need it to stop.


You need something to change.


But you're not saying it to your manager.


You know what? It's not just you.

40% of people have a work issue they're unable to discuss with their manager

J. Winter & C. Jackson Conversation Gap 2004

J. Winter & C. Jackson Conversation Gap 2004

J. Winter & C. Jackson Conversation Gap 2004

Maybe it's because like others, you don't know what to say.


Or you know the words, but you're worried about what will happen afterwards.


Maybe your manager doesn't make time to talk 1:1.

Or it feels like they don't hear you and nothing ever changes.

(You've lost trust in them.)


So in the end, you hold back. You don't say the thing.


It'll be fine.


But it won't, will it?

Things you hold back,
Hold you back

(Not saying the thing sabotages your career)

What if you could say the thing to your manager?

If you knew exactly what to say to your manager and how to say it.


No cringing, "How will they respond?" because you'll be ready for any response.


No more wondering, "What if they don't listen?" because you'll know how to get their attention.


Less worrying, "How do I bring it up?" because you'll have prepared for the conversation.


You could have that career-changing 1:1 conversation tomorrow.


Stop overthinking. Build the skills to sidestep your fears and say the thing to your manager and pursue that promotion, that pay-rise, that better work-life.


I've created Say the Thing to Your Manager so that you can have the conversations that will unlock what you need to succeed.

What you'll learn

This isn't KFC but you can still takeaway a 4 piece

This isn't KFC but you can still takeaway a 4 piece

  1. Decoding your 1:1 style

    Your skills, beliefs, and habits shape your approach to 1:1 conversations. Learn to make this work for you.


  2. Building a solid 1:1 relationship with your manager

    Discover simple tactics to build trust, improve communication, and collaborate smoothly with your boss, even when things get tricky.


  1. Staying cool under pressure

    Practice staying calm, confident, and clear-headed before, during, and after difficult 1:1 conversations.


  1. Saying the right thing, your way.

    Adapt my ready-to-use conversation guides and phrases to make delivering feedback or making sensitive requests straightforward and stress-free.

(No Finger Lickin', but still Good)

So what's in STTTYM?

(Yeah the full name is too long. But I had already bought the domain 🤣)

(Yeah the full course name is long. Too long. But I had already bought the domain.)

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No work. No change.

∙ If you do the work, you will see change

∙ How to use this course

∙ How to misuse this course

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No work. No change.

∙ If you do the work, you will see change

∙ How to use this course

∙ How to misuse this course

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No work, no change

This course won’t unsabotage your career. You will.

How to use this guide

How to misuse this guide

01

Why you don't say the thing

∙ Why issues become difficult to discuss

∙ Common issues people don’t discuss

∙ Non-obvious issues we forget to discuss


01

Why you don't say the thing

∙ Why issues become difficult to discuss

∙ Common issues people don’t discuss

∙ Non-obvious issues we forget to discuss


01

Why things remain unsaid

Why issues become difficult to discuss

Common issues people don’t discuss

Non-obvious issues we forget to discuss

02

Why 1:1 conversations suck

∙ How managers sabotage 1:1 conversations

∙ How you sabotage your 1:1 conversations

∙ How companies sabotage 1:1 conversations

∙ Common 1:1 conversation mistakes

02

Why 1:1 conversations suck

∙ How managers sabotage 1:1 conversations

∙ How you sabotage your 1:1 conversations

∙ How companies sabotage 1:1 conversations

∙ Common 1:1 conversation mistakes

02

Why 1:1 conversations suck

∙ How managers sabotage 1:1 conversations

∙ How you sabotage your 1:1 conversations

∙ How companies sabotage 1:1 conversations

∙ Common 1:1 conversation mistakes

03

High impact 1:1 conversations

∙ Problem-solving conversations

∙ Feedback / Coaching conversations

∙ Trust-building conversations

∙ Alignment conversations

∙ Discovery conversations

03

High impact 1:1 conversations

∙ Problem-solving conversations

∙ Feedback / Coaching conversations

∙ Trust-building conversations

∙ Alignment conversations

∙ Discovery conversations

03

High Impact 1:1 conversations

∙ Problem-solving conversations

∙ Feedback / Coaching conversations

∙ Trust-building conversations

∙ Alignment conversations

∙ Discovery conversations

04

High Impact 1:1 meetings

∙ Time, place, duration, and frequency

∙ Co-create an agenda

∙ Avoid project talk

∙ Prioritise what matters

04

High Impact 1:1 meetings

∙ Time, place, duration, and frequency

∙ Co-create an agenda

∙ Avoid project talk

∙ Prioritise what matters

04

High Impact 1:1 meetings

∙ Time, place, duration, and frequency

∙ Co-create an agenda

∙ Avoid project talk

∙ Prioritise what matters

05

High impact 1:1 relationships

∙ Yes, you are in a relationship with your boss

∙ Align on what a good relationship looks like

∙ Agree to collaboration not subordination

∙ Agree to work together on your career

∙ Align on the value of openness and honesty

∙ Understand each others “defaults”

∙ Review and repair your relationship

∙ Build and rebuild trust

∙ Agree to have High Impact of 1:1 meetings

∙ Agree to have high Impact 1:1 conversations

05

High impact 1:1 relationships

∙ Yes, you are in a relationship with your boss

∙ Align on what a good relationship looks like

∙ Agree to collaboration not subordination

∙ Agree to work together on your career

∙ Align on the value of openness and honesty

∙ Understand each others “defaults”

∙ Review and repair your relationship

∙ Build and rebuild trust

∙ Agree to have High Impact of 1:1 meetings

∙ Agree to have high Impact 1:1 conversations

05

High impact 1:1 relationships

∙ Yes, you are in a relationship with your boss

∙ Align on what a good relationship looks like

∙ Agree to collaboration not subordination

∙ Agree to work together on your career

∙ Align on the value of openness and honesty

∙ Understand each others “defaults”

∙ Review and repair your relationship

∙ Build and rebuild trust

∙ Agree to have High Impact of 1:1 meetings

∙ Agree to have high Impact 1:1 conversations

06

Before you say the thing

∙ Preparing your mindset

∙ Clarifying the outcomes you want

∙ Practicing what to say

∙ Choosing your words

∙ Gather the relevant context

∙ Preparing your manager

∙ When you don’t have time to prepare

06

Before you say the thing

∙ Preparing your mindset

∙ Clarifying the outcomes you want

∙ Practicing what to say

∙ Choosing your words

∙ Gather the relevant context

∙ Preparing your manager

∙ When you don’t have time to prepare

06

Before you say the thing

∙ Preparing your mindset

∙ Clarifying the outcomes you want

∙ Practicing what to say

∙ Choosing your words

∙ Gather the relevant context

∙ Preparing your manager

∙ When you don’t have time to prepare

07

Saying the thing

∙ Set the tone

∙ State the facts

∙ State the impact, on you, on others

∙ Ask for what you want

∙ Listen and pay attention

∙ Handle objections

∙ Agree on the way forward

∙ Acknowledge and handle feelings

∙ When the conversation goes wrong

∙ When the conversation goes well

∙ Show gratitude (no matter the outcome)

07

Saying the thing

∙ Set the tone

∙ State the facts

∙ State the impact, on you, on others

∙ Ask for what you want

∙ Listen and pay attention

∙ Handle objections

∙ Agree on the way forward

∙ Acknowledge and handle feelings

∙ When the conversation goes wrong

∙ When the conversation goes well

∙ Show gratitude (no matter the outcome)

07

Saying the thing

∙ Set the tone

∙ State the facts

∙ State the impact, on you, on others

∙ Ask for what you want

∙ Listen and pay attention

∙ Handle objections

∙ Agree on the way forward

∙ Acknowledge and handle feelings

∙ When the conversation goes wrong

∙ When the conversation goes well

∙ Show gratitude (no matter the outcome)

08

After you say the thing

∙ Reflect on what came up

∙ Reflect on how you handled

∙ Plan for your next actions

∙ Follow up with notes

08

After you say the thing

∙ Reflect on what came up

∙ Reflect on how you handled

∙ Plan for your next actions

∙ Follow up with notes

08

After you say the thing

∙ Reflect on what came up

∙ Reflect on how you handled

∙ Plan for your next actions

∙ Follow up with notes

09

What to say: Conversation Guides

∙ For starting (or resetting) 1:1 relationships

∙ For building and repairing trust

∙ For job level and career progress

∙ For money and compensation issues

∙ For times of change

∙ For when tasks and projects don't go well

∙ For when work-life is not going well

∙ For when home-life is not going well

∙ For when your manager is the problem

∙ For 1:1 relationship endings and exits

09

What to say: Conversation Guides

∙ For starting (or resetting) 1:1 relationships

∙ For building and repairing trust

∙ For job level and career progress

∙ For money and compensation issues

∙ For times of change

∙ For when tasks and projects don't go well

∙ For when work-life is not going well

∙ For when home-life is not going well

∙ For when your manager is the problem

∙ For 1:1 relationship endings and exits

09

What to say: Conversation Guides

∙ For starting (or resetting) 1:1 relationships

∙ For building and repairing trust

∙ For job level and career progress

∙ For money and compensation issues

∙ For times of change

∙ For when tasks and projects don't go well

∙ For when work-life is not going well

∙ For when home-life is not going well

∙ For when your manager is the problem

∙ For 1:1 relationship endings and exits

Yep, it's a lot.

But, if it was easy you'd have said it.

Yes. It's a lot.

If it was easy you'd have already said the thing.

How it works

7 hrs of Zoom workshops with Farai
4 hrs of group coaching with Farai
2 hrs of live Q&A guess what, also with Farai

7 hrs of video workshops with Farai
4 hrs of video group coaching with Farai
2 hrs of video Q&A guess what, also with Farai

Week 1

Day 1: Foundations

Thursday, 20 March 2025
12:00 PM - 3:30 PM (EDT)

Live Workshop

3:30 PM - 4:30 PM (EDT)

Live Q & A

12:00 PM - 3:30 PM (EDT)

Live Workshop

3:30 PM - 4:30 PM (EDT)

Live Q & A

Day 2: Preparation & Practice

Friday, 21 March 2025
12:00 PM - 3:30 PM (EDT)

Live Workshop

Live Workshop

3:30 PM - 4:30 PM (EDT)

Live Q & A

Week 2

Group Coaching: Session 1

Thursday, 27 March 2025

12:00 PM - 14:00 PM (EDT) - Zoom (2 hrs)

Group Coaching: Session 1

Thursday, 27 March 2025
12:00 PM - 14:00 PM (EDT)

Group coaching (Zoom)

Week 3

Group Coaching: Session 2

Thursday, 3 April 2025

12:00 PM - 14:00 PM (EDT) - Zoom (2 hrs)

Group Coaching: Session 2

Thursday, 3 April 2025
12:00 PM - 14:00 PM (EDT)

Group coaching (Zoom)

Coolness.
So how much?

Coolness. SG.
So how much?

(Let's have an awkward 1:1 conversation)

OK, I'll say the thing, this is not the cheapest (or most expensive) course out there, but I offer seriously good value.


You are paying for practical, well-researched, well-crafted tactics that you can use to unlock higher trust, higher impact and get recognition for it.

(OK… that wasn't really a conversation)

USD

USD

$399

$579

$579

Teaching + Coaching

Teaching

  • 7 hours of live video workshops

  • 2 hours of live Q&A


Coaching

  • 4 hours of group coaching with Farai


Templates & Conversation Guides

  • Essential 1:1 Conversation Guide

  • High Impact 1:1 Meeting Guide

  • 1:1 Roles and Responsibilities Guide

Learning

  • 7 hours of live video workshops

  • 2 hours of live Q&A


Coaching

  • 4 hours of group coaching with Farai


Templates & Conversation Guides

  • Essential 1:1 Conversation Guide

  • High Impact 1:1 Meeting Guide

  • 1:1 Roles and Responsibilities Guide

USD

USD

$(TDB)

Team training

I train teams on how to have better conversations with their managers. I can do this remotely, or if you're all in one place, IRL.


Send me an email farai@hey.com

USD

USD

$150

I can't wait. I need help with a conversation right now

Got a tough conversation coming up and you need 1:1 coaching to help you say the thing.

We'll get on a 45 Minute coaching call ASAP and get you ready to say what needs to be said.


Send me an email farai@hey.com

Learn with me, Farai

I've managed people for more years than I can count on my fingers and toes. I've done it on 3 continents at global giants, tiny startups, and everything in between.


That's 100s of 1:1 meetings and conversations. Some MEH (when I was a young manager), some good, some great (after I started studying 1:1s).


I now coach non-managers and managers around the world on how to have 1:1 meetings and conversations that lead to:

  • Healthier 1:1 relationships

  • Open and honest 1:1 conversations

  • Increased impact and performance

  • Better quality of work-life


With this course,

I can do this for you too.

I've managed people for more years than I can count on my fingers and toes. I've done it on 3 continents at global giants, tiny startups, and everything in between.


That means I've had 100s of 1:1 meetings and conversations. Some MEH (when I was a young manager), some good, some great (after I started studying 1:1s).


I coach non-managers and managers around the world on how to have 1:1 meetings and conversations that lead to:

  • Healthier 1:1 relationships

  • Open and honest 1:1 conversations

  • Increased impact and performance

  • Better quality of work-life


With this course,

I can do this for you too.

Got questions?

What happens if I can’t make a live session?

I work full-time, what is the expected time commitment?

What’s the refund policy?

Are the live workshop and Q&A recorded?

Who is this course for?

I have a question about the course.

What happens if I can’t make a live session?

I work full-time, what is the expected time commitment?

What’s the refund policy?

Are the live workshop and Q&A recorded?

Who is this course for?

I have a question about the course.

What happens if I can’t make a live session?

I work full-time, what is the expected time commitment?

What’s the refund policy?

Are the live workshop and Q&A recorded?

Who is this course for?

I have a question about the course.

Oh, you're that kind of person.

The kind of person who needs to keep gathering info before actually doing something.

I know because I'm like you in some ways. It took me ages to finally get started building this course.

Even though I had what I needed, I kept looking for more inspiration, waiting for the right moment.

The thing I've learned is, taking action, saying the thing, that's how you get the results your want.

Not by scrolling more.

Doing the thing.
Saying the thing.
That's how you get what you want.

So, do the thing, join the waitlist and I'll show you how to say the thing.

Or just go ahead and book a meeting with your boss right now and say it. Save your money.

Or keep delaying and telling yourself you'll do it when the time is right (aka sabotaging your career).

Doing nothing is always an option.

Scrolling more,
also does nothing.

Oh, you're that kind of person.

The kind of person who needs to keep gathering info before actually doing something.

I know because I'm like you in some ways. It took me ages to finally get started building this course.

Even though I had what I needed, I kept looking for more inspiration, waiting for the right moment.

(I don't know why I'm shouting)

The thing I've learned is, taking the action, saying the thing, that's how you get the results your want.

Not by scrolling more.

Doing the thing.
Saying the thing.
That's how you get what you want.

So, do the thing, join the waitlist and I'll show you how to say the thing.

Or just go ahead and book a meeting with your boss right now and say it. Save your money.

Or keep delaying and telling yourself you'll do it when the time is right (aka sabotaging your career).

Doing nothing is always an option.

Scrolling more,
does nothing.

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